To the women on the ‘Ban Bossy‘ campaign, shut the fuck up. Seriously? With all the injustices taking place world wide right now to women, children, and mankind, the best use of your time and resources is waging war on a word!
In case you haven’t heard, Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg launched this campaign to have this offensive 5-letter adjective eliminated from being used in the commonplace when describing girls and women. Now, Ms. Sandberg, is waving endorsements from celebrities like Beyonce, Jane Lynch and Condoleezza Rice, because they claim girls who are labelled bossy grow closer to being bullies than leaders.
According to Dictionary.com
bossy [baw-see, bos-ee]
given to ordering people about; overly authoritative; domineering.
Of all the things I have been called, and there have been many, I don’t ever recall bossy having stinging power. There was a time when I used to be offended by being called a Bitch. Now, it empowers me to be authentic. In fact, I like bossy and I don’t mind taking a side order of control with that please. I’ll take bossy and bitch any day over passive and submissive.
Romeo and Juliet
“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet.”
Reporter Dana Loesch of The Blaze news network says, “How about teaching girls not to let the perception of others define them? How about you teach girls strength from overcoming something, not running to Uncle Sam to ban what you dislike? How about you teach girls to get tough, Sheryl Sandberg, because no girl-woman is going to take over a board room if an innocuous adjective hurts her little feelings?”
In addition to Ms. Loesch’s comment, I would like to pipe in. If this is truly a national crisis, than the problem isn’t with a word. It is the lack of home and educational environment that breeds leadership and leaders versus bullies.
However, I don’t see it as a crisis but as people, including women and girls, give all words their own subjective meaning based on emotions evoked within from that word, most likely triggered from their personal history.
For example, if you walked down the street and randomly asked 10 people what sex means to them, you’d get more than one answer. If you went to a women’s shelter and asked 10 women what sex meant to them, I’m certain you’d get very different responses.
Until recently (earlier this month), I had an aversion to being referred to as ma’am. To me, this is a title someone uses for an old woman. Yes, I’m vain and not enthusiastic about aging gracefully or embracing the old lady title. So, I decided to find out the original definition. Guess what? It’s got nothing to do with being old.
So, no more biting off heads of people showing me respect. Knowledge, really is POWER.
Instead of adding bossy to the ever growing list of taboo words, why not change the meaning it has for you?
Perhaps, a bossy girl/woman is someone not to be messed with. She is confident, well researched, and delegates with certainty. She knows what she wants and never compromises her maxims. She is a warrior for her children and relentless to her cause. She has recovered from many falls so she knows hard work and what it takes to be committed in business and at home. She is okay being called bossy/bitch to her face and behind her back, because she knows, not many people have the balls to get into the ring with her.
It is my belief that if women were to own bossy as I just described, physical/mental/emotional abuse, inequality in the workplace, gender inequality, would rapidly decline. So, can you embrace bossy or do you just want to whine?
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